The Incandescent (Tesh)
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Why is The Spruce so popular when their fucking site is so horribly bad. It's always at the top of my search results and no matter what I do the site simply will not scroll or display pictures correctly.
In 2005, artist Rhea Ewing had a lot of questions about their own gender identity. Some of those questions were so big and so formless that they didn't even know how to ask them.
They started a kind of study, gathering people who were willing to talk to Ewing about their gender identities. Because Ewing thought in visuals, they turned it into a comic. It was originally meant to be maybe 30 pages, a little project for their final university project. Ewing soon realized that this work was too complex and multifaceted to be that simple booklet, and in fact, they didn't finish the comic until the early 2020s.
The book is arranged by topics, starting with Femininity and Masculinity and then working through more of the interviewees' experiences within themselves and then out in the world of other people, through Hormones, Healthcare, Queer Community, and much more. Under each topic are relevant snippets of the actual interviews, drawn as lively, expressive comics, and the words of the interviewees are thought-provoking and sometimes heart-rending.
Some reviewers I've read are miffed with Ewing, because the artist doesn't come up with a specific plan or specific answers to the issue of gender in today's society (and yes, there is acknowledgement and discussion of variations in culture within that society). But in fact, there are conclusions, expressed on the last couple of pages before the acknowledgments. What there isn't is a step-by-step recipe for "solving" the question of gender. And if you really read that far, you should appreciate why.
I love trying to describe my job in the smallest words possible because it sounds like nothing.
I loosen and fasten screws and bolts all day.
I have so few friends who aren't either queer or autistic that whenever I'm exposed to supposedly completely heterosexual games of gay chicken I'm just like ???? are you sure you're not just bi? Is this a bit??
Men be saying some of the most violently homoerotic shit to each other but it's fine because it's not flirting, it's not, they're straight, honest!!!
The new post interface jumpscared me with an "unclosed tag" banner as I was editing a post and once again I am so unbelievably glad this site exists.
My general preferences are here.
DNW: unrequested mundane AU | female characters in fridges | non-con | violent dub-con | graphic violence | gore | graphic sexual violence | cruelty/death to animals | cruelty/death to children | requested character death | unrelieved grimdark | bigotry by the good guys | first or second POV | reader fic | ABO | soulbonds | wildly OOC in a non-cracky way
SMUT DNW: creampies | the word “cunt” | anal | hate each other out of bed | underage | incest
MAYBE: no-harm dubcon (sex pollen or “fertility artifact”) | period typical attitudes | infidelity | power dynamic
Treats are welcome!
So happy to see this challenge, I have been missing Night on Fic Mountain!
( Wake Up, Wake Up )
DNW: unrequested mundane AU | female characters in fridges | non-con | violent dub-con | graphic violence | gore | graphic sexual violence | cruelty/death to animals | cruelty/death to children | requested character death | unrelieved grimdark | bigotry by the good guys | first or second POV | reader fic | ABO | soulbonds | wildly OOC in a non-cracky way
SMUT DNW: creampies | the word “cunt” | anal | hate each other out of bed | underage | incest
MAYBE: no-harm dubcon (sex pollen or “fertility artifact”) | period typical attitudes | infidelity | power dynamic
Treats are very welcome!
My general preferences are here.
DNW: unrequested mundane AU | female characters in fridges | non-con | violent dub-con | graphic violence | gore | graphic sexual violence | cruelty/death to animals | cruelty/death to children | requested character death | unrelieved grimdark | bigotry by the good guys | first or second POV | reader fic | ABO | soulbonds | wildly OOC in a non-cracky way
SMUT DNW: creampies | the word “cunt” | anal | hate each other out of bed | underage | incest
MAYBE: no-harm dubcon (sex pollen or “fertility artifact”) | period typical attitudes | infidelity | power dynamic
TREATS ARE ALWAYS WELCOME.
I have listed pairings/characters under some of the songs to give a bit more of a vibe for what I am looking for, but feel free to use them if you’re familiar with the fandoms!
( Drop a Quarter in the Jukebox... )
Domtops in fics are always written to have such uncomplicated and healthy relationships to their sexualities and for my mental health I need us to collectively start giving them complexes about being some kind of monstrous predatory freak of nature instead.
Make that guy have a panic attack b/c someone in his daydream told him to stop and he kept going anyway.
ETA: New and improved! Sad Wet Dog of a top is thinking about how he wants to hurt you but doesn't want to hurt you and it's slowly and Steadily making him Lose His Whole Fucking Mind.